Friday, January 22, 2016

Day 25 of our 40 Day Fast and Focus -"HOW TO LOVE WELL"

Do you love well?

The number of books in any local book store on learning to love well are astounding! Face it, living a life that matters requires being open to loving and being loved well. Many of us long for deeper, more meaningful love in our lives. We want the highest level love that brings harmony and is spiritual, mental, emotional and physical. Sadly, not one of us has mastered the art of loving well. Loving well requires embracing the unlovely and imperfect. It requires vulnerability, mask removal and abandoning image management.


1. Each of us have barriers to bash within our hearts and minds in order to love another person well.  Those barriers may be pain, loss, jealousy and rejection. Bashing those barriers for good requires learning how to love in a way that pleases God.
2. To love others well, first love yourself well. The most powerful paragraph I have ever read about loving yourself well was: "Everyone's heard this self-help platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may sound wise, but it misses a great truth; if we want to experience true intimacy, we need to be taught to love aspects of ourselves--again and again--by the people around us. As much as we want to control our own destiny, the humbling truth is that sometimes the only way to learn self-love is by being loved-precisely in the places where we feel most unsure and most tender. When that happens, we feel freedom and relief-and permission to love in a deeper way. No amount of positive self-talk can replicate this experience. It is a gift of intimacy, not of will-power.

Beloved, I am praying with and for you.

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