Saturday, December 3, 2011

You Are Not Ruth

2nd Timothy 2:15-Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth.

Ruth 1:16-But Ruth replied, "Don't ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.

More than a few women are waiting on a Boaz, sitting and daydreaming of the man God will send and the love and protection that He will provide.  Here’s the rub…God never promised you a Boaz. He gave a Boaz to Ruth because she was prepared for him specifically.

 I get the sentiment behind the desire (I am a single woman desirous of marriage too) but we’re as off on this whole mindset as we are with “Jesus is my husband.” It’s a mindset wise women must resist and  get rid of and instead study the book of Ruth in context. Study it and examine what made Ruth a woman prepared to be wife to Boaz. Read the entire book of Ruth and you will see that Ruth:
  • Had a  loving and kind servant’s heart and was living a submitted life to lawful authority.
  • She did not leave her responsibilities when things got rough.
  • She did as guided experience told her to not as she wanted/thought.
  • She had a loving, kind personality and expressed herself with respect.
  • She worked hard on her own, needing no motivation save her love for her mother-in-law.

Is that you “waiting on Boaz” woman? Examine your life today. Are you able to be rescued and then add to not subtract from a Boaz?  Look at the man Boaz was. Read about him and you will see:

  • He was a business man, on assignment and BUSY.
  • He knew what to do and what was right by law, was and could exercise lawful authority.
  • He told Ruth what to do from the minute she was presented to him.
  • He took time to consider the right way to bring her into his life and cover her.
  • He respected her and did not take anything from her, he gave.

In studying the word it’s easy to take from it what appeals to our comfort and leave all that other stuff alone. Few desire delayed gratification, discipline, submission, humility and WORK. We want it easy breezy and that’s why so many of us lack peace and fulfillment in life. We take things out of context and build an entire theology around that which is what we want, set not promised expectations on God and get disappointed when He doesn't do as we want, praying despicable prayers to Him that He does not hear nor answer--- if we’re not careful. Not studying and desiring proper application and knowledge of what God's word is saying to YOU personally will make you guilty of not “correctly explaining the word of truth.” To fulfill your desire for a mate/marriage you must be the person the person you hope to attract is attracted to.  You must be prepared and that won’t happen automatically. Get and submit yourself before God and learn the lessons of Ruth in its totality. No longer settle for or parrot the “Boaz for Me” theology.  It’s putting you in a daydream that's not real...which may be why you’re disappointed in God and daydreaming instead of living life as He really has promised you. Beloved, I’m praying with and for you.

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Friday, November 11, 2011

I See Beauty

Isaiah 61:3
..and provide for those who grieve in Zion--to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor.

John 8:36
So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

Isaiah 50:4
The Sovereign LORD has given me an instructed tongue, to know the word that sustains the weary. He wakens me morning by morning, wakens my ear to listen like one being taught.

I see beauty
Within not without
Beyond physical
Irrespective of presentation
Covered, stained, thick -skinned, in pain
Bound, imprisoned,without liberty
He wounded me skillfully
Using me
Trained humane eyes
A display of His splendor
Hidden beneath
Weight, care, despair
I see beauty
I see you


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Sunday, October 9, 2011

Flee to Be Free!

2 Tim. 2:22- Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.

Proverbs 6:5- Free yourself, like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter, like a bird from the snare of the fowler.

Romans 8:6- For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace"

How free are you? By free I mean having personal rights and liberty; not enslaved, not imprisoned, not restricted, independent, spontaneous, not busy, not used, not obstructed, not containing, not fastened, without obligations, not costing any money, lavish, frank, fiving a general idea; not literal, informal, not combined with any other foreign or chemical substance.” Are you that free?

If questioned and the truth was revealed, could you say your daily activities (thoughts/words/deeds) inhibit or free you? Master you? Call and compel you and you come every time? Are you mobile, agile in life or are you encumbered about with many things as Jesus described Martha (Luke 10:40)? The truth is many of us are parked in the past waiting on God to move us, to transition us forward. He’s waiting on us to cooperate with Him and free ourselves from what we know isn’t good for us but we still persist in doing. A lot.  Beloved, self-control mixed with love equals FREEDOM WITHOUT LICENSE. You can personify 1 Corinthians 6:12   "Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything.” But you’ve got to know what to flee from and run to and that requires knowing what has the potential to pull you to excess. It can be obvious or hidden. Pray about that. What's your 'pull or bent' that makes you want to over-indulge? That's what you may have to flee to remain free.
The saddest state known to man is the perceived freedom that isn’t but they've made themselves believe it to be so.  Deception about your true state occurs when you’ve disobeyed so long you’re insensitive to what you’re really doing to yourself, its such a looming presence in your life you can't make a decision about it to benefit yourself. IT/THEY are the boss of you and run you.  You’re stuck as if in quicksand and eventually you’ll go under/reach crisis. Doing whatever you want, however you want, with whomever you want isn’t freedom or pleasure, at least not real freedom/pleasure that won’t leave a mark when you’re done with it. Being unrestrained, knowing the cost of something and not its value is immaturity and to make yourself truly free (unfasten, disentangle, relieve, make available, release) question and FLEE (Run away from a place or situation of danger) RUN (move at a speed faster than a walk, never having both or all the feet on the ground at the same time) from anything or anyone that makes you weak-willed. If you just have to do it, you're not free, you're bound and running in place. To move/go forward you have to get from where you are to where you should be by LEAVING. You have to flee HERE to GET THERE. Beloved, I'm praying with and for you.

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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

How to Love?

Proverbs 18:24- A man with friends is to show himself friendly, And there is a lover adhering more than a brother.
1 Corinthians 13:11- When I was a child, I talked like a child; I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.

There is a popular song by a hip-hop artist playing incessantly on the airwaves today called “How to Love.” Its popularity and its question made me think and question myself  because the lyrics in the song are haunting and sadly true,but,offer no guidance, no solid information on how to love, it just states the object of the song doesn’t know how to love herself or a man. Have you ever asked yourself that question…do I know how to love someone intimately (this is not a question about your children or family)? To you, what is love? Your answer to that question will define the kind of relationships you find yourself in. The problem is few have a research and data driven answer to that question as if acquiring that information taints the feeling of it and that feelings based love is all there is--laughable to me, loving from logic first actually will  strengthen/deepen the feelings that follow, while vice-versa doesn’t and frequently leads to deception.
When asked what is love most will offer you a feeling based answer or parrot a philosophy they heard preached or taught somewhere—saying the words (philia, eros, storge, thelema & agape) without knowing their true meanings for themselves.  I am a firm believer that if you allow someone to define something for you and passively accept information you will live without authenticity until a crisis shakes you out of your unawares. Nothing is more devastating emotionally than discovering what you thought was…isn’t. Sadly, that is the state most of us find ourselves in before we really start to question our feelings and the people we feel for. We skillfully wound ourselves, unconsciously incompetent at best, consciously incompetent at worst. Refusing to accept to love well is a learned skill dependent upon the two individuals choosing to enter that state and that you CHOOSE what you let into your feelings gate—good or bad. No one can MAKE you feel anything, not chemistry, not lust, not their great body, their fat bank account, or your shared passions. You get to direct your will to like, love, share time with a person. You choose. Feelings don’t force you to ---even if you say to yourself “but, I can’t help it, I love him/her” (makes me cringe and is an immature cop-out J). Stop it. Your body is not doing a thing against your initiation despite what it feels like. You have to make a conscious effort to see, talk, listen to, touch, have sex, and feel for a person! You feel like you’re on autopilot because of the powerful hormones at work on your brain that you cracked open getting into an illicit relationship with them…but that’s not an excuse either. You can right those hormones but its going to HURT… learn to always question anything/anyone that makes you feel weak-willed from the start, that’s not love you’re feeling—that’s a chemical imbalance that will dictate what you do if you let it. It’s wise to stay away from things/people you can’t control yourself around. Once you’ve gotten there though you will have to discipline yourself and suffer through withdrawals, the pain none of us wants to experience (heartbreak), yet that pain is a messenger and a great teacher if you grasp the lesson it will teach you well that the desire is not worth the discipline for the next time. Be wise. Look deep BEFORE you leap. Save yourself some grief.

Is there a better way to choose to love then? That is the right question to ask then answer FOR YOUR SELF. Few of us have had healthy relationships modeled for us to guide us. Fortunately, God Himself gives us guidance and then allows us to meet, make up our minds about someone as a love interest or not. His way is very simple actually and He created us to be in healthy relationships although so few of us are. We have to be willing to BE in a relationship to GET into one. Relationships are not wandering around looking for people to force into them. Isn’t that great? See, you don’t have to if you don’t want to! Nor will you die if you stay out of intimate relationships. In fact, I encourage you to. See how long you can go without being with the opposite sex beyond work/church. Inability to do so is an indication you’re probably being led around by feelings and desperation. Commit to a minimum 8 week period of no dating, texting, calling. Especially no contact or double backs with your ex.  Learn this fact-- if someone doesn’t want you; you don’t have to want them either. You can stop feeling that way about them if you choose to because God gives you a strong and powerful thing…your will and mind …it’s just you’ve shut them off preferring feelings and have to learn again how to control yourself and that Good-bye is a necessary life skill. Learn and practice it as needed!
Personally I don't think relationships should be as hard as we make them. Knowing as much as possible about a person before you commit feelings to them is wise. It’s not a time thing either…telling someone to wait 90 days as a rule of thumb before getting into a relationship is silly to me. I can make my mind up in as few as a couple of conversations/days. My litmus test is prayer—I pray for God to show me who this person really is and He does, putting me and that person in situations that expose things in ways that I know it’s Him answering my prayer. I get to see how this person responds to things and answer the question of at least on the surface do we share the same things that are important to me like integrity, can they make me laugh, do they consistently treat me well (people can act nice only for so long…how do they treat you when things aren’t nice?), can I trust them (trustworthy people do trustworthy things),  are they good parents (I don’t have children but welcome being a stepmom); do they put in time, attention and consistently put our relationship over their individual needs? Those are the things Cheryl’s learned she needs to feel loved and to love in return. Without those key things for me, I just won't allow myself to feel more than love for you as a friend. I have learned every male friend I have is not a romantic interest for me. I will remain single until a man demonstrates and inspires all of those things to me and in me consistently and in that I am content because I don’t want A RELATIONSHIP I want the RIGHT RELATIONSHIP for me and the person I’m in it with.

 Beloved, you were created for relationship and thrive best in right relationships not just a relationship (Ecclesiastes 4:10-11). Our awesome God gave us the ability to direct our will towards it or away from it, He did that even in choosing or not choosing to be in relationship with Him. God is into free will. He created it and gave it as a gift to His creation made in His image. Learning to love from your free will and not your emotions and just feelings is wise and necessary.  I am praying with you and for you.

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Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Say Enough, Not Too Much!

Proverbs 10:19-Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.

James 3:2- We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.

James 4:17- So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.

I’ve stopped talking very much. I’ve stopped talking to certain people because in talking to them controlling my tongue was too difficult because of our developed long term habits & style of communicating. See, three years ago God began to deal with me about my tongue in a powerful way. I am called as a mouthpiece for Him but because of not practicing self-control with my tongue, I was just a mouthpiece. I was a fool with my mouth and talked too much (see Proverbs 18:2). I was selfish, arrogant, not a good listener and that didn’t work for Him for my life assignment He’d given me and I had to change.

 Breaking my habit of talking too much has been difficult, excruciating in fact. I love to talk to people and have strong opinions about life and like to be right. Being research and data driven it is hard for me to not speak about what I’ve learned, read and confirmed. God gifted me with creative communication skills and sadly I was using that gift to MY OWN GLORY and God took it back. He confined me, I began to have extreme difficulty communicating at all, and He led people into my life that confronted me about my talking too much and drove people away that I cared about because of my tongue. It didn’t become clear to me that God was breaking my talkativeness until I found a book called “Thirty Days to Control Your Tongue” by Deborah Pegasus (I highly recommend it as a great devotional). Trust that it was not a study I wanted to undertake but was compelled to by the difficult circumstances in my life so I took it on and it changed my heart about my use of my tongue. I began to practice silence---going days and sometimes weeks without sound unless it was absolutely necessary (living alone & being unemployed helped tremendously, I had no one to talk to without making an effort to do so). I began truly listening to people when I was around them (I found out most people talk too much using words profusely with no real grasp on what they’re really hearing or saying or the meaning of their words—that’s my honest opinion). Listening to people now I was not just hearing them so I could say what I wanted to say from my heart I NOW HEARD THEM, completely tuned in to what they were saying. It has been life altering learning to control my tongue and because God’s word is true I proved James 3:2 well and other areas of my life became easier to control too. In fact when something is out of whack in my life I begin first with how I’m using my tongue. It is the impetus for so much in life which is why it is abused so much in the world. Not just talking too much but not saying the right things/evil communication is rampant in society and destroying many of us with our full cooperation.

 I’ve also discovered one of the most difficult areas for me in controlling my tongue is the same as that of many women and that is in relationship with men—it is here that I have to be vigilant and methodical not just in how I talk to a man, but also controlling my emotions and my tendency to want to spill my heart too much/too soon. Most men are not over-communicative; their problem usually lies in not saying the right things/being non-communicative and we women tend to err on the side of talking too much/giving every single detail and recalling every single wrong ad nauseam. Many men are tormented by a contentious woman in their home and women we would do well to read and memorize Proverbs 21:19 (It's better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife) and Proverbs 14:1 (A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands). Here is a truth many men do not want to accept though…if you have an out of control over-communicative woman the greatest burden is yours to let God use you to free her from that and lead her in effective communication. Too many men who tout their leadership in every area waive this one being a peacekeeper instead of a peace maker in order to have silence. Jesus did not say peacekeepers are blessed he said peacemakers are blessed. Sometimes peace comes with confronting something and calling it what it is and enduring the consequences as opposed to stuffing the strife. Men, don’t lack understanding this key fact ---women are naturally wired as receivers and will reproduce after the seed given to them by a man…if you sow non-communication you will reap a woman out of control talking in excess to get you to communicate. Lead her in communicating, listening to her and responding to her in a way that lets her know she’s heard and if a woman is not emotionally unbalanced with deeper issues that will require deeper healing, she will calm down and you will get the silence you crave. In other words, men if the woman in your life talks too much I submit to you that YOU NEED TO TALK TO HER MORE! Try that instead of being mute and moot with her conversation. It will work guaranteed and all it takes is your leadership and listening to reap the fruit of her silence. Worth the investment!  Women, we need male leadership in this area and the good counsel of an older, godly woman to learn to shut our mouths and not drive our men and children away which far too many of us are doing to our detriment. Again, read Proverbs 21:19!

Silence is not only golden it’s crucial if you want to be effective in communication. You can’t listen if your mouth is always in motion. Talking is necessary, just not in excess. Practice saying enough, never too much and let your mouth become a wellspring of life keeping you out of an ocean of trouble. Beloved I’m praying with and for you!

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Saturday, April 9, 2011

Living a Dazzling Existence Requires Attention!

3 John 1:2- "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well."

Deuteronomy 30: 19 "...Oh, that you would choose life."

Several years ago I lived under the impression that to be a good Christian required somber, serious perfection. Living religious meant living as if I were in a glass case and could see all the beauty and wonder of the world but couldn't touch it or enjoy it.  I was like that in business too...workaholic always striving for the next move/what would bring me the money and status I desired. I was so unhappy and yet from the outside it looked good because I made sure everyone (including God) knew I was serious about things and getting it done, no time for fun! I mean, what would God think if I showed even a hint of "loving the world" instead of existing and pining away for heaven? Well, several life crisis and a bad business deal that I'd worked myself into distraction trying to make happen left me sidelined and miserable and no amount of prayer, fasting, reading my bible helped. There, I said it. I couldn't muster up a care for God or my spiritual disciplines of reading the bible an hour, praying 30 minutes and memorizing a scripture quoting it throughout the day. Yes, I was that rigid! Laugh all you want. That's just my unsubdued T-total personality.

During this dark valley experience  on a particularly sunny, clear Kansas day I went for a walk along a trail close to my house and while lamenting in my head about the drudgery of life, I looked over and saw a little girl swinging and laughing. Gazing at her with great longing, I remembered as a little girl swinging and gazing at the sky made me the happiest. The motivation to get on a swing overtook me (I'm a little bit so I could still fit) and so I did. I got my miserable behind on a swing and I just swung my little heart out and guess what? God cut through my mess and ministered to me right there in that playful moment. In my heart I heard Him speak Ephesians 3:20 to my mind in this way "Cheryl, you're not living you're just existing. If you let me lead your life you will live a dazzling existence but it will require attention-- to Me/My ways not yourself/ways." It was in that moment that I got it. God wants me to enjoy this life as long as I'm alive and doesn't mind me having a good time. He didn't want me miserable and perfect. He wanted me obedient and believing. My actions were not what pleased Him. My faith did. Just knowing/accepting that and I was renewed, back in balance and never did I want to go back to that religious nut who was of no benefit to any one. Who'd want to sign up for the type of Christian life I was living? Nobody and truth is, I didn't witness much either. Now that I'm open to living, having fun in meaningful ways that for me include nature, sports/activities and writing/reading...people are drawn to me in the oddest of ways pretty much everywhere I go (especially Wal-Mart, I call it Wal-Mart Ministries because I'm always picking up deodorant and somebody talks to me-- LOL). Its like a moth to a flame and no beating over the head with scripture driving them into the kingdom...we just talk and share life experiences and frequently I'm asked the reason for my hope and happy disposition. I can then tell them about Christ.

Look, all I'm saying is don't think of having fun as choosing between wanton worldliness/partying and serious somber sitting of pews in church every time the doors crack open. I've accepted this truth, I am a spiritual being who lives in a body (flesh) with a soul (mind, will, emotions) that God created this way for a reason and He wants me to primarily live in attendance to my spirit but has no problem with my flesh and my soul being well too! There is a balance to living that if you're an extremist like me you will struggle to find. You will have to spend some time to get some self-awareness of what makes you joyful and happy (prayerfully its not drinking,drugs, sex...those are dead end sins that are temporary pleasures with great long term costs). Let loose and enjoy those things fully without shame. God wants you to live a dazzling existence as long as you're in this earth suit marking more than time, its my belief He wants you in close relationship with Him receiving all life has to offer as long as you're His. Beloved, I'm praying with and for you.

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Saturday, March 26, 2011


James 1:5 (NIV) If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

What do you ask for Beloved? Of yourself, of others and mostly of God? Asking means to put a question to; to seek an answer to; to seek information about. Consider this for a moment with me because in asking this question I want to differentiate between asking and assuming. Assuming means
to take upon oneself, to undertake the duties of an office, to take on, adopt, don, put on, affect the appearance or possession of, to take for granted, suppose. Between the two where do you most often reside? See, to really ask you should assume nothing. Bare, stark not knowing is something we fight with a passion. Instead we hold on to what someones told us, what our experience has taught us and most often what we want/desire. May I challenge you today to learn this principle for life and acquire the ability to ASK not ASSUME. To really acquire knowledge and receive healing, forgiveness and to be propelled forward one must LET GO so that you can begin to observe something that doesn't appear to fit in your current knowledge base. I also caution you to seek wise counsel because experience is not your best teacher, guided experience is. To fully partake of someones well-earned experience you can't be a know-it-all and simply listen and try to add it to what you all ready think/know. Intimacy, wisdom, conflict resolution, and problem solving all depend upon your ability to grow in asking, not assuming much. Recognizing God's voice, seeing His hand and realizing answers to prayers all depend upon this principle and its one that few want to be stretched out of their comfort zone to do. We wrestle most against not knowing and/or accepting and we sacrifice so much peace in living life that way. Begin today. Stop the practice of assuming and learn the principle of asking? You will then truly begin to receive. I'm praying with and for you!

I asked for wisdom...
And God gave me problems to solve.
I asked for prosperity...
And God gave me brains and the strength to work.
I asked for courage...
And God gave me danger to overcome.
I asked for love...
And God gave me troubled people to help.
I asked for favors...
And God gave me opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted.
I received everything I needed.
My Prayer has been answered.


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Monday, February 21, 2011


1 Thessalonians 5:15 (NIV)

Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else.

In hurtful situations it is easy to find yourself responding in angry impatience because lack of peace and anger will make your base nature rise up. When people mistreat you, lie on you, saying vicious vile things about you, doing you wrong it can be devastating. And it happens most often not from strangers but from family and friends. It feels even worse when they also get other friends and family to join in their evil and collectively come against you, labeling you and reviling you. We have all experienced this. No one is immune. It happens.

What is most difficult is as a Christian who claims to belong to HIM you’re unable to do what your base nature wants you to do, what you believe will make you feel better and what the world will tell you to do. The world says pay back but giving in to anger and giving a piece of your mind never pays off. God will eventually get a hold of you, HIS CHILD and ask you what you will now do. Obey Him? Or, do what your flesh is compelling you to do which is NEVER GOOD. God commands you not to return the favor of evil. He has a different type of math from the world’s math in the equation of evil done to you and your response to it. The world says EVIL X YOUR ANGER = GET EVEN. Gods math is EVIL + PEACE + MERCY+ FORGIVENESS=GOOD MULTIPLIED. This will not add up unless you allow and accept this equation as more true than what your feelings and vision may be telling you. It’s not easy math, in fact its harder than quantum physics when you’re in the midst of an emotional situation and you're hurt... yet, it is so worth it to pay the price, to give up your will/way and utilize God’s math in adversity! You can reap a blessing when evil comes your way if you'll do the right math.  In 1 Peter 3:9 we learn - "Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing." No matter how complex and difficult the situation, it always works out well when you obey God and I’ve learned it always pays off in amazing ways that bless you and others too. Truthfully that is what we're all called to do, to really be different from the world. No situation is ever permanent and we should always strive to make things better no matter what others may do to you. There's great peace in knowing God will never fail to take care of all that concerns you when you're truly striving to follow Him. He sees everything and will give you justice (He's the only one who can) so go ahead and let evil go anytime it comes--don't let it attach its self to you. Hold on to your peace instead and then when opportunity arises, you take the high road in every situation and watch God work it out for good-making sure you're better than okay, in fact, He says you're blessed in adversity because its a possibility to see Him in a new and different way. Oh how I've found this to be true. He is ever faithful!

 Beloved, I’m praying with and for you.

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Friday, January 14, 2011

Watering a Dry Life

Is. 58:11- The Lord will guide you continually, watering your life when you are dry and keeping you healthy too. You will be like a well-watered garden like an ever flowing spring. (NLT)

Some of us take better care of a plant we want to grow than we do our own bodies/lives. We will read the plant's instructions so that we pot it in the right soil, making sure it gets the right sunlight, prune the dead, decaying stuff off of it, keep it free from pests, feed it food and water it diligently. Not so with our very lives---that we will live unintentionally and inauthentic, taking any hardship as an evil thing to avoid like a plague (ease/comfort/entertainment is all we want thank you very much), we don't get rid of a thing, taking on one more possession to maintain, things we know we should say no to we can't because we feel like one more thing will make us FEEL HAPPY, working dead end jobs for a paycheck (too lazy and fearful to seek out purpose, refusing to believe doing what you are gifted at/with love/helping others= money will come), calling a relationship that time spent with someone who only causes us pain and we've invested nothing in trying to learn to love them or leave them, we eat conveniently which usually means fast food--something that is manufactured-not even close to real fruits, vegetables, lean meats and water our bodies crave and deserve, we don't exercise (who has the time), we live in filth/disorganized surroundings that we dread looking at as it screams to be cleaned or we become so comfortable with it we ignore it and don't notice its drag on our psyche... then we slide into bed at the end of a long day if we can fall asleep without aid to do it all again the next run-on day. Does living like this sound at all familiar to you?

You can exist as described for long periods of time until a crisis shakes you out of the monotony OR you decide to stop living your life like this and DO LIFE BETTER and BLOOM WHERE YOU'RE PLANTED. You can you know! Want to water your dry life? It starts with honesty and its at first an inside job. Only working on the outside things are like putting bandaid on cancer. First deal with the foundation of your life.  Decide to submit your life to God. That's first/foremost. Begin to make time to study spiritual things and realize you're not just a body coasting through life. You have a spirit and its going to spend somewhere eternally, this time here on earth is temporary. Death is a 100%. We all leave and how do you want to spend eternity? Figure that out FIRST.

Secondly, what is in your life that needs better care, what's in your life that needs pruning and throwing away? This can apply to people, possessions, places you go, habits you have, ways you think/talk---tell yourself the truth not just what you want to hear or want to think...self examination is tough stuff but worth it. Desire truth, and pray for it asking God to examine you (Psalms 26:2) and show you the real so you can cooperate with Him and fix your life for the better. This act is needed  especially if you're dishonest in any area of your life, unless you're pathological you know where you're dishonest with yourself and others...this is a draining, drying way of living. A well-watered life requires TRUTH in every area. Ask for it. God will give it, trust me and then respond with right and truth. It will be so worth it to sober up to authentic, truthful living. To be who you really are, unashamed and real. Lying or living a lie is like being drunk...its deceptive and you're too full of it to know what you're really doing and who you really are in this state. Getting sober about living your life isn't simple but its easy once you make up your mind to do it.

 Dearworthy, you have to decide you want to live your life to the fullest and then manage this decision daily. It won't just happen no matter how much you wish for it to, it will require intention (deciding what's important to you); action (easy isn't necessarily right, be willing to do the tough stuff of a disciplined life) and then leave room for the sun (fun and unexpected blessings that may be in disguise). I'm praying with and for you!

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