Goodbye is a necessary life skill few possess.
Many of us drag yesterday into our today, and will bring today into our tomorrow. We laughingly call that baggage, but the truth is we have no intention of unpacking, processing and letting go of people, places and things regardless of if they were good or bad to us. We refuse to take compliments as a congratulatory formality and we let criticism(s) take away our power. Today I want to encourage you in two ways; to let go, forgive and move past that/those that hurt you and to release/maintain freedom to grow past that which helped you. No longer let compliments go to your head nor let criticisms go to your heart. I want to introduce these truths and hopefully this last day of 2015 you will accept you are able to walk in freedom and deliverance from the past-good or bad.
Application: HOW TO SAY GOODBYE
1. Process pain and focus on your own crazy. Processing pain requires you don't stuff or deny what happened. Quit looking for closure and an apology that may never come. Close your own doors. Stop knocking on doors God closed. Tell yourself the truth. Remove fantasy and fabrications about someone or something. Call it what it is/was and let the pain be stark so you recognize it and then finally release it. You may need counseling to do this. Get it. You're crazy not to get counseling, not because you do, and truth is we're all crazy in our own way! As someone who coaches I can tell you it's very difficult to get someone to see their own crazy because they're too focused on the crazy of someone else. Life hurts. Let go of it.
2. Press past yesterday or even today's success. Don't live in the past, or rest on laurels. Many of us are so stuck in the "good old days" and the "good old ways" we cannot and do not move forward due to clutching onto what worked then or felt good back then. We so want to plagiarize and replicate what was good to or for us we attempt to make things happen just like they did back then. We rinse and repeat yesterdays goals, objectives and tasks hoping for the same success. Our hands are so full of yesterday we can't receive today. Beloved, God is a creator and a designer, not a replicator! God has new manna, fresh water and new beginnings for you if you stop hanging around yesterday and wishing for what was. Leave that back there. Resolutely and intentionally turn to today and take no thought of yesterday like this scripture tells us to: Hebrews 12:1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.
Beloved, I am praying with and for you.
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