Proverbs 12:19 - Truthful lips endure for ever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.
Everyone lies but no one likes to be seen as a liar unless they're a sociopath. We need order and to make sense of the world we live in...sometimes in order to get along we will erect self-defensive mechanisms in order to cope. One of those mechanisms is we lie. First and foremost we lie to God (its only a lie in description, you can't actually lie to the truth and God is truth) you never ever get away with a lie with God but being human sinners we try it. Secondly, we lie to ourselves denying what we're saying isn't true or justifying its for the best so we don't hurt. Finally we lie to others because its just easier than dealing with their response if we tell the truth. Beloved, sometimes truth does hurt. If we tell the truth with evil intent (which we tend to do when we want to put someone in their place or make them hurt like they've hurt us) then we're wrong in our motivation in telling the truth but if you're telling someone a painful truth its always for the best. Truth is always the best policy.
So...if you're a lying liar, how do you stop? Glad you asked. You can stop being a liar today if you want by practicing consistency and consideration. Put your heart before God right now and confess this prayer: God, I'm a liar and you hate liars (Proverbs 6:16). I want to practice living and telling the truth from this point forward and can't do it alone. Help me by your Holy Spirit and with your word which I will hide in my heart to be a person you respect...an honest, truth telling person. Amen.
Now, consistently put your tongue and what comes out of your mouth before God before you utter a sentence. I know this is hard work and trust me there are times I chew my tongue to keep from talking because the urge to say something truthful with evil intent or the urge to lie to avoid the consequences of the truth. Consistently confess when you miss it and lie right then and there...you know when you've uttered a lie unless you've lied so long and so much that you're unable to distinguish truth and the remedy for that has to come in another teaching (you're in deception and need deliverance not just change of behavior). Tell the truth to God and yourself right in the moment of lying by praying : "God, I just lied. Forgive me and if I can, help me instead now tell the truth."
We're now ready for consideration. Consideration just means the process of giving careful thought to something. You can't just talk Beloved. Every time you open your mouth you reveal what is in your heart and it must be taken seriously every time. Can you agree with that? If so, then you're ready to hide the word of God in your heart and esteem others higher than just yourself (Phil. 2:3) and practice self-control with your mouth, being an honest person God respects. Here are scriptures you can memorize for having a truthful heart and mouth:
1 Peter 2:12
I Corinthians 13:1
I Peter 4:11
James 3:17-18; 4:8
John 8:31, 32
John 17:17, 19
We all struggle so don't condemn yourself for being a liar. If you're like me I want no parts of being or doing something God hates and again HE HATES LIARS! Determine to stop (repent) and be changed. You will be amazed at how simply and freely you can live in truth if you try. I'm praying with and for you!