Tuesday, June 5, 2012


John 15:18 If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.

John 1:11 He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him.

If you are alive and breathing you have dealt with the pain of rejection. That pain is very real and new research shows that the same areas of the brain that signify physical pain are activated at moments of intense social loss. Being rejected, having your opinion not matter or presence not desired HURTS and it will come at you from all sides, in every relationship or encounter with another human being. So, why do we fear rejection and avoid it like the plague since it’s so prevalent?  Actually it’s because being accepted/acceptable is a basic human need. We need community, and were created for relationship so we will contort ourselves in amazing ways to get in and fit in. Sadly, though that need is across the board people will not like, want, or desire your presence no matter how much you need  or want them to.

Because rejection is universal (we all experience it) and unavoidable (you will be rejected by someone someday), why don’t we just embrace rejection and deal well with being “thrown back, not desired, un- wanted?”  Why don’t we give ourselves enough permission to fail and stop internalizing rejection realizing it’s absolutely okay and another person’s right to decide if we’re desirable to/ for them and their purpose? Here is a newsflash: YOU CAN STOP WANTING SOMEONE OR SOMETHING THAT DOES NOT WANT YOU! Did you get that?  We fight the wind when we subvert our God-given dignity in an attempt to force ourselves onto or into something or someone’s life.  So, stop that. Stop is to cease all motion. When rejection surely comes, learn to “row towards the pain,” do not fight it or deny it, instead allow it, examine it, improve from it, and let people and things go. Sometimes rejection is protection from God because He knows that thing from the end to the beginning, you don’t and only THINK that thing/person may be what is best for you, chances are by virtue of their rejection, they’re not. They were not for you and you were not for them. Someone and somewhere else will find you absolutely amazing—will hire you, desire you, commit to you and marry you.  That won’t happen if you stay in place to be rejected over and over again, remove yourself from the equation with your head held high, not pride but confidence, and in strength move forward on your way past rejected to accepted. Beloved, I am praying with you and for you!

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