Day 29 and 30 of our 40 Day Fast and Focus: "COULD'VE, SHOULD'VE, WOULD'VE."

How much of your life is vain regret?

Regrets are vain when character is weak. Truth is, vain people are needlessly shouldered with shame and inadequacy. Fact is, every time you hear or use the word “should,” you are, in effect, saying that you are “wrong” and “not good enough.” The self-beat and feeling of “being wrong” because your desires didn't come to pass are wasted energy and an outright lie.

Application: Stop Should-ing and Could-ing

1. Stop means to cease all motion.  Stop fearing being weak. Stop fearing failure.  We are all weak sometimes. Nobody perfectly does anything all the time so quit putting that kind of pressure on yourself. Your best is good enough, as long as it's your best. Respect and own your own life choices. Realize that is exclusively your power and yours alone. Always ask and answer this question for your self..."why did I choose to do, or not do that?"

2. Regrets are vain when circumstances are masterful. I have heard it said that in life, sooner or later, good inevitably unfolds good; and evil, sooner or later, inevitably unfolds misery. So, in life, it is wise ALWAYS to do the prudent, the thoughtful, the self-restrained, the good, and from there in spite of whatever comes, you master your circumstances and may never know the misery of vain regrets.

Beloved, I am praying with and for you.

Resources to help:

1. http://rickwarren.org/devotional/english/don-t-live-with-guilt-regret-or-shame_870

2. http://rickwarren.org/devotional/english/what-mistakes-regrets-do-you-need-to-hand-over-to-god

3. http://tinybuddha.com/blog/dealing-with-regret-8-ways-to-benefit-and-move-forward/

4. Memorize and recite: 1 Corinthians 6:12-"I have the right to do anything," you say--but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"--but not everything is constructive.

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